“Am I not good enough?”
“Why can’t he love me the way I love him?”
These are some questions that I often hear from women that I get to talk to. It’s funny how we measure our worth based on how others love us. Shouldn’t it be that we must love ourselves first before we enter relationships or even before we share our love to others?
What is self-love? According to Wikipedia, Self-love is defined as “Love of self” or "regard for one's own happiness or advantage". It is that very simple but is often neglected. As a wife or mother, we tend to be hesitant to prioritize ourselves because we feel that we are being selfish when we prioritize themselves. Not knowing that loving ourselves more allows us to give more to others.
Self-love often starts with acceptance. Accept who you are, flaws and all. Don’t let society dictate you that you are not worth loving or you are not enough. These are marketing strategies of companies for them to sell their product. A company will tell you to buy their beauty products or enrol in a fitness class with them because you are fat, and they portray that women should have a slim physique. All these messages just make it more difficult for women to accept themselves. Learning to accept that you are not perfect is a big leap towards loving yourself.
To all women out there, here’s my message. Believe that you are worthy and that you are enough. Let me share with you too 10 Ways to Start Loving Yourself.
Start your day positively
Always start your day with positive thoughts. As soon as you open your eyes, be thankful that you are alive. When you look at the mirror, appreciate yourself and say 3 good things about you. Remember, you set the mood for your day.
Watch your thoughts
We attract what we think. Be careful of your thoughts because you might be drawn to think of the negative, not only for yourself but also for others.
Stop comparing yourself to others
Always remember that each one of us is unique. Stop judging yourself and others and accept that we are good enough. Don’t compare yourself to the norms that society has set. Always look for the good in people.
Do something you love
Is there something that you really wanted to do or stopped doing? If it makes you happy, then do it! Being happy with something that you love doing creates a positive atmosphere that also attracts positive things. Remember, this is all about you!
Have a "Date" with yourself
When was the last time that you went out and enjoyed without the company of others? Treat yourself just like how you want others to treat you! Have you been eyeing to try out that new coffee shop or perhaps wants to get a new manicure but are afraid since you are alone? Don’t be! Go ahead and indulge yourself, girl!
Stop worrying about what others will think of you
Always remember that you are good enough. Worrying that other people might think about you will make you forget who you really are! You don’t need others approval – you only need one, and that is from yourself! You are the woman of your destiny.
Throw away the junk
Don’t be afraid to cut ties with toxic people who are always dragging you down or who are making you feel that you are not good enough. Throw away the emotional baggage and learn to forgive yourself and others. Learn to let go and learn from the lesson it gave you.
Create achievable goals
One reason for disappointments is that we create goals that are unrealistic. Learn to create goals that are achievable. Try to create them with milestones and celebrate them. A little victory goes a long way.
Don't feel guilty
Know you worth. Don’t rush into relationships just for the sake of having one. There is nothing wrong about being a strong, independent single woman. If they can’t appreciate you, then there is no sense in keeping them.
Know your worth, then don’t settle for less.
Carpe Diem!
Every day is a new day! Let go of the past and stop worrying about tomorrow. Seize the day! Focus your attention and your positivity on the present. Plant the good seeds today and forget about tomorrow.
Always remember, happiness is a choice and that self-love is the first step to being happy. Keep in mind that you can’t give what you don't have.
